Holiday Invitations with Grown Kids 💌

I saw a post on Facebook that I think will resonate with so many of us. 

A mom shared that her son, who recently moved out, is now living with a female roommate. She doesn’t feel entirely comfortable with the situation or the roommate, but the roommate has invited her over for Thanksgiving dinner. 

She shared her honest (and valid) concerns about why she was hesitant to accept the invite. She wasn't sure what she should do. 

 It got me thinking about situations like these as the holidays approach.

If you find yourself in a similar spot this season—or even just reflecting on the dynamics with your nearly-grown or grown kids—take this as an opportunity to evaluate where you stand with them.

Ask yourself:

- Are you on solid ground where you could comfortably decline an invitation or suggest an alternative that your child would understand and accept?

- Or are you still building that foundation where showing up, even when it’s uncomfortable, could be key to strengthening the relationship?

Start by reflecting on areas where things might feel challenging or disconnected as a way to help you find a relationship goal. 

Is it:

- Communication?

- Building trust?

- Creating peaceful interactions?

Once you identify what matters most in your relationship with them, let that goal be your guide. 

Before you respond to an invitation or make a decision, ask yourself:

- “Does this support my goal, or could it put it at risk?”

- “Is this short-term discomfort worth the long-term gain?”

Let your intention guide you. If saying yes to an invitation isn’t ideal for you, remember that focusing on your bigger picture—a stronger relationship, better communication, or mutual understanding—can make the inconveniences feel more manageable.

For more ideas like these, check out *The Parenting Pivot*! Because your peace, your joy, and your relationship are worth every step.